Sunday, March 1, 2015

10 Warning Signs Of Midlife Crisis

The silver-haired 50-something-year-old suddenly trading in his life in the suburbs, his wife of 25 years and his sensible car for a Harley motorcycle and a 21 year old girlfriend is certainly the stereotypical image of midlife crisis.

Obviously every period of doubt or depression that occurs in middle age is not connected with the panic about getting older. But how do you know if what you are experiencing is actually the anxiety of midlife crisis or not?

I recently read an article about 10 warning signs that say you might be going through midlife crisis. I'd like to share them with you here.

1)  You have a growing sense of regret over unattained goals.

2)  You have new feelings of being self-conscious around more successful colleagues.

3)  You now place a new emphasis on remaining youthful when the effort previously seemed unimportant.

4)  You desire to spend more time alone than previously, or with certain peers who could be characterized as youthful or as those who are comfortable in their own skin.

5)  You have developed a new tendency to abuse alcohol.

6)  You place a new importance on acquiring unusual or expensive items when the same purchases were previously considered frivolous or impulsive.

7)  You are experiencing a sharp increase in self-criticism with a corresponding decline in self-compassion.

8)  You now obsess over your physical appearance in areas where you previously didn't pay that much attention because everything was okay.

9)  You place an unusual amount of pressure and stress on your children to excel in a variety of fields.

10)  You enter relationships with younger partners than previously considered viable.

Even though midlife crisis is usually and traditionally associated with middle-aged men, it certainly applies to women, too. Now, where did that 25-year-old bronzed stud of a lifeguard disappear to (she asks as she slowly rakes her gaze across the men at the beach)?


Marlow Kelly said...

LOL. My midlife crisis made me realize I wanted to write. Once I started writing all that shallow stuff drifted away and became unimportant.
I don't even dye my hair. I decided to become fifty and fabulous - wrinkles and all.
okay, so no great works of literature are going to come out of my brain, but life's still a fun ride.
Thanks for the post.

Sandra Dailey said...

I've always felt that running around with my kids and grandkids helped me avoid midlife crisis.
Now, my mother has decided to move in so I can help her in her old age. She's a little demanding and it's been a rough start. I'm thinking, this is my life until one of us dies.
The depression is setting in, but I'm trying to keep my chin up and smile.

Susan Macatee said...

I think I hit my mid-life crisis in my forties, but a serious health-scare cured me and made me realize what's important. Now, I've reached the age of 60 and all the things I thought were so important in my forties have faded away. I just want to be comfortable with finances, all the things I thought were essential to have aren't; healthy, so I can enjoy life with my husband, our beautiful 3 year old granddaughter and our five year old boxer-mix pup.

Samantha Gentry said...

Marlow Kelly: I think writing is an excellent way to deal with things like midlife's very cathartic. You can use your fictional characters to work through all kinds of problems and deal with frustrations.

And you can even get away with murder since you only committed it on paper!:)

Thanks for your comment.

Samantha Gentry said...

Sandra: {{hugs}} Make sure you set aside some time for yourself so you can decompress. Good luck.

Thanks for your comment.

Samantha Gentry said...

Susan: Isn't it amazing how those things that were so important (to have, to be, to do) become much less so as one settles into that age where we are comfortable in our own skin rather than striving to be something else.

Thanks for your comment.